I don’t kiss on the first date – LinkedIn Tips

“I don’t kiss on the first date,” one LinkedIn employee said to my friend G, when he asked to connect with her on LinkedIn.G’s mouth just hung open. “I didn’t ask you to. I just wanted to add you to my LinkedIn network.”

“Right. It’s like kissing on the first date. I don’t even know you. I just met you at this conference, and you want access to all my hard-won connections on LinkedIn,” she explained.

G had never thought about it like that before, he told me when relaying this story.

And most people don’t.

Many are going for LION or one million connections. Maybe it works for them. Typically, it doesn’t.

Think about LinkedIn invitations like this:

1. Is this person someone you know personally or would like to know personally? If it’s someone you’d like to know, schedule a time to talk with him or her to get to know the person better. Find out how you can help each other. After you do, ask yourself, would this person be an asset to your network? If so, ask them to join (or accept his or her invitation). If not…

2. Is this a person you already know, like, and trust enough to refer to all your other connections on LinkedIn? He is? Ask them to join your network.

3. Does this person have a strong LinkedIn profile, which includes a professional picture, solid recommendations, and a decent-sized network that adds value? She does? Accept her invitation (after you’ve talked of course).

4. Does this person provide value to his or her network already? You can check this out from reading the updates.

5. Does this person have a blog? Facebook? Twitter? She does? Great – check it out. Heck, people do background checks before dates, why not before accepting LinkedIn invitations?

6. Google him or her. What else comes up – besides his or her LinkedIn profile? Has he got digital dirt?

7. Know that LinkedIn is a professional network. Are the people you’re asking and who are asking you professional? Are they on brand for you and your business or career goals?

8. Check out your own LinkedIn profile with fresh eyes. Does your profile convey your personality? Do you have a professional head-shot? And NO, wedding pictures do not count here. Did you complete the entire LinkedIn profile? Are you providing more details about your employment background or only listing names and titles? Do you have recommendations from those in your network? Do you already add value to your network?

9. If you’ve answered NO to any of the above, beef up your profile. Answer questions from those in your network. Join groups. Provide recommendations to others in your network – that’s the easiest way to get them for yourself too.

10. Need more help? Check out Rock Your Network.

If you’ve more tips you’d like to add to this list, please share your thoughts!

© 2010 Wendy Terwelp

Networking: Get to the Point

“Do you know anyone who’s hiring?” Did that sentence make you cringe just now? If so, it’s OK. That phrase creates the same reaction in nearly every person who hears it. Here are a few reasons why:

  1. They do not know anyone who’s hiring.
  2. They don’t really know what you do for a living.
  3. They have no idea if you could do the job they do know about.
  4. They did hear that the fast food chain down the street was hiring, but they figure it’s not the job you want.

And finally, they’re too busy to help, if they could.

In Jill Konrath’s book, SNAP Selling, she says, “Many of the people you’re calling on today suffer from a severe case of Frazzled Customer Syndrome. This debilitating condition is brought on by excessive workloads, 24/7 availability, information overload, lack of sleep, and job-related stress.”

Guess what? As a job seeker, you’re trying to reach many of the same people Jill’s book talks about – decision makers. Knowing your audience is key to getting them to read your resume, interview you, and hire you.

Here’s a day in the life of one human resources (HR) manager, the typical person many job seekers target initially. Let’s call her Sally:

Sally runs the HR functions of a manufacturing plant. She is in charge of human resources functions for 500 employees.

She had to downsize one of her staffers to meet budget. So, she and her two assistants are doing the job of that extra person.

In addition to her standard daily duties, including those of the eliminated position, Sally has to meet with the regional human resources director once a month or more to update her on HR initiatives at her plant, plus those initiatives Sally developed to roll out to the other plants nationwide. Sally’s a go-getter her regional manager counts on for these initiatives.

At her own manufacturing plant, retention is an issue. To combat this, she’s rolling out a new employee incentive program, which requires that she meet with EACH of the 500 employees to discuss the program.

Know that Sally reports directly to the company president and has regular strategic planning meetings with the president, operations manager, and two other VPs every week. Sometimes she meets with the operations manager daily, depending on the situation.

Plus of course, there’s always ongoing training she has to complete to remain on top of state and federal hiring practices. Once she’s updated, she then trains others to ensure all HR functions are in compliance with federal, state, and company regulations.

When Sally does advertise a job opening, she gets anywhere from 200 to 500 applicants. She and her team review the resumes, when they have a chance. Of those who send resumes, more than half of them do not even meet the minimum requirements. Then, others are overqualified. Her concern? They won’t stick. If they don’t stick, it means that $10,000 to $50,000 was wasted in training the new hire – and it means she made a bad decision. At least, that’s her thinking.

It’s important to realize what’s happening on the other side of the table when you’re in job search mode.

People are busier than ever because they’ve absorbed other employees’ work functions to cut costs. They are over-worked, multi-tasking to the point of ADD, and have 40 hours of work to do in one day, not one week.

By the time your resume hits their desk in response to an ad, they’re already overwhelmed.

And the candidate’s follow-up call, “Did you get my resume?” falls on deaf ears.

I wanted to share this information with you to emphasize why it is so important to be personal, yet get to the point quickly, during your job search. Why it’s mission critical to build personal relationships, instead of simply making one million connections.

Why it’s important to pick up the phone and have in-person meetings that are of value to your network. And by “of value” I don’t mean, “Do you know anyone…” When you do make that follow-up call, be a resource your network, one that a potential employer, can count on.

It’s important to fuel your network to fire it up – to fire it up to help you get your next gig.

And it’s even more important to get to the point quickly when you do connect.

Here’s what must be conveyed when you talk with those in your network when you’re looking for a job:

Focus – What is it you want?

Share – What do you bring to the table that others do not?

Tell – Where do you wish to work? Name names!

Here’s what questions you’ll be answering specifically, with your new Rock Your Network® “FST” way, instead of the old, “Do you know anyone who’s hiring?” phrase:

New Rock Your Network® way is FST (read: fast!) – Focus, Share, Tell:

They do not know anyone who’s hiring.

FST: They may, if you Tell them the companies where you wish to work. Name names.

They don’t really know what you do for a living.

FST: They will when you Share what you bring to the table that others do not AND when you mention the career Focus you wish to target.

They have no idea if you could do the job they do know about.

FST: They’ll know more when you Share one of your latest achievements.

They did hear that the fast food chain down the street was hiring, but they figure it’s not the job you want.

FST: When you share your career Focus, they won’t even think about this one!

Too busy.

FST: Not any more! You are clearly communicating your goals when you use your new FST (fast!) sound bite, which is Focused, Shares what you bring to the table, and Tells your network where you wish to work – and how they can help you best.

Do you want more help creating your new “get to the point” sound bite? Grab a copy of my book, Rock Your Network® for Job Seekers, which takes you through the networking process step-by-step. And it covers far more than your sound bite!

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© 2010 by Wendy J. Terwelp. All rights reserved.

Wendy Terwelp, Knocks.com, has helped thousands of clients get hired faster and be rock stars at work since 1989. A recognized expert on networking, both online and off, Wendy has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The Chicago Tribune, The Philadelphia Inquirer, Fast Company, The Business Journal, Careerbuilders.com, Monster.com, and more as well as numerous radio shows. She has published hundreds of articles on the web and in print and wrote the ultimate networking book, “Rock Your Network® for Job Seekers.” Learn more at http://knocks.com.

Stop Emailing and Get Personal

Jeff Pic 2Today’s post is from my colleague,  Jeff Kortes, Human Asset Management. Jeff’s a leadership trainer and executive recruiter. I chose his post for many reasons, the main one being that many people forget about voice-to-voice and face-to-face connections. It’s important to make that personal connection and Jeff’s post shares some of the reasons why. Enjoy! – Wendy Terwelp

Stop Emailing & Get Personal!Jeff Kortes, Human Asset Management

I was talking with a buddy of mine and he told me he is getting more than 150 emails a day. That is mind boggling! Worse yet, because half of them were crap, he hits the delete button again and again and again. There’s something wrong with that picture. Email was designed to be a communications TOOL, not this monster it has become. So, how do we stop the insanity?

The one way to get the most bang for your buck is to go back to the rule that if it takes more than 5 minutes to write the email, pick up the phone and call instead or (God Forbid) get out of your office and go talk with that person face-to-face. Not only will you save time, you will enhance your visibility as you walk to where the person is located. You have just killed two birds with one stone: saved time and enhanced your visibility. But more importantly, you will be building better rapport when you do it face-to-face. Besides, it’s a heck of a lot more enjoyable!

The other key benefit as a leader, is that you have an opportunity to use your people skills. I make no bones about it when conducting my leadership training programs. I am seeing people skills starting to deteriorate as we rely too heavily on “electronic” communication. If you start to lose those skills, your value as a leader drops. If you are a young leader, this is even MORE important for you, because many of your peers have NO PEOPLE SKILLS. Many people in the younger generations of leaders are not practicing them as much as back in “the day.” Want to stand out compared to your peers as a leader? BE GOOD AT BOTH COMMUNICATING FACE-TO-FACE AS WELL AS ELECTRONICALLY!

Today, before sending off that lengthy email, get off your butt and walk down the hall to talk with the person. If you do, you will be more productive, build a better rapport with people, enhance your visibility and, perhaps most importantly, have a more ENJOYABLE time when you get face-to-face with people.

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Want to make more networking connections that work? Pick up a copy of Rock Your Network for Job Seekers and get hired faster! And the extra bonus Jeff points out? Gain stronger leadership skills. Share your story!

Networking: How to Remember Names

Editor’s Note: Updated 6/17/19

A friend told me he was at a block party and talked with a guy who was an engineer, like my friend. They bonded over robotics. Then, my friend moved on to the next house where he met another engineer, who happened to be in the market for a robotics expert.

My friend said, “Man, I see how networking can work – if only I could have remembered the guy’s name, he could have had a job! All I could remember is that he had on funny pants and I didn’t think that would be too professional to mention.”

Has that ever happened to you? All you are trying to remember is a name.

You recognize the face, but the name escapes you. And, she’s not wearing a name tag either. (Who wears name tags at summer parties?)

What’s in a name? It’s the one word that’s music to your listener’s ears. If you’re great with faces but have a tough time remembering names, here are three tips excerpted from my book, “Rock Your Network®:”

1. Associate the names.

Alliteration is especially helpful for large groups or if more than one person has the same first name. Barbara in blue, Mary the mortgage broker or Frank the financial planner can help you remember who is who.

At one networking event, we went around the group and introduced ourselves by saying one or two words that described us, followed by our name. I still remember, “Calling Card Candy” who sold telephone calling cards.

2. Learn something unique or special about this person.

During your brief conversation you may discover interesting facts. Put this on the back of the person’s business card. For example, Mary speaks seven languages. Ramona used to be a professional juggler! Jim plays rugby.

3. Follow up.

If you make promises to others during your networking event or meeting it is important to follow up promptly. If you promised to send them an article on their topic of interest, jot that down on their business card – then do it the next day.

These are just a few tips. Next time you’re at a block party and you meet a guy wearing funny pants who’s in robotics, you’ll remember his name. How? Why it’s Rob in Robotics with the Retro pants.

Want to learn even more about networking? Check out my half-day online workshop, Leverage Your Personal Brand and Propel Your Career, in partnership with the Association for Talent Development. Save the date: July 11, 2019.

Post excerpted from “Rock Your Network® for Job Seekers.”